Scorpio in Relationships
Partners of different zodiac signs bring out slightly different facets of the Scorpio personality. Some elements however are fairly common to all Scorpio relationships. Many people are initially wary of Scorpio relationships. As a practicing relationship astrologer I often have clients wanting to know if their new Scorpio partner is going to start being mean to them later.
The fact is that (if treated well) Scorpios are amongst the most genuine and loyal partners of any sign, and also amongst the most nurturing. The only time that problems arise is when a partner can’t or won’t commit to them. The only bad thing about Scorpios is that they give you everything, and they want the same in exchange.
Scorpios don’t respect a weak or wishy washy lover, preferring someone that knows their mind and heart. Female Scorpios will likely be very good at making you come to her, being the traditional vixen that she is. Male Scorpios will be very forward and let you know exactly what they want, whilst helping themselves to it.
Be prepared for intense love making and intense conversation. Not likely to just have casual one night stands, Scorpios are quite traditional in their intimate relationships, preferring to be in committed unions. They are devoted and fiercely loyal to their partners. Being excellent listeners, you will find yourself sharing intimate details of your own story with them even if you are normally reserved. Don’t worry, your secrets are safe, as their loyalty prevents them from spilling any beans.
Although typically Scorpios get accused of being controlling, they are really just trying to make everything okay for everyone. Scorpios are very eager to please their partners and are very loving once they love you. They will literally sacrifice themselves to ensure your happiness often putting your needs above their own. This applies in sex as well. Never prudish, you can feel free to get down and dirty with your Scorpio as nothing is likely to shock them. Bring on the fantasies! They eagerly explore nuances and details of love and love making and will likely love to hear details of your sexual experience. Simply as a way of getting to know you more.
Although in social situations Scorpios may appear at ease and vivacious, privately they’d rather just be alone with you. They prefer "one on one" quiet dates where the conversation can run freely and without interruption. Fireside dates, quiet dinners at home or in intimate restaurants, or a scenic drive are easy dates that will entice your Scorpio. Basically they need less fluff as they are mostly just interested in YOU, not the surroundings. They can quickly see through BS so if you claim to know about something, you better actually know about it.
Their memory and attention to detail can be frustrating especially if you are prone to stretching the truth a bit. Expect to get your bluff called by your Scorpio. This can all be in cheeky fun, but can turn serious if they sense you are outright trying to mislead them. On the flip side, their memory and attention to detail will make you feel a very unique sense of being cherished as they seem to know you so well and can anticipate how to make you happy. You won’t be taken for granted when a Scorpio has given you their heart.
The intense attention of Scorpio in relationships can be very alluring and enticing and frankly irresistible. But take caution in not betraying your Scorpio, as they have very high standards and are less likely to quickly forgive and forget than most signs. Love, trust and loyalty are things that they give freely, but if you err against them, they are likely to really make you earn it back, IF you ever even get that far.
Scorpios are never wishy washy and are very much "all or nothing", in love and life. This is highly beneficial for those that hate mind games and prefer to know exactly where they stand. Scorpios are very articulate and great conversationalists which adds to their allure. When in comitted relationships, they will want to know everything about you and will pierce you with their "all knowing" eyes and fall deeper for you the more genuine you are in sharing details of your life.
Scorpio and Aries Relationship
When two strong wills like Aries and Scorpio get together, they both need freedom to move and make their own decisions. Neither of these signs are good with wilting flowers, so they have a healthy respect for each other, but Scorpio considers themselves skilled enough to win against anyone and the ram will rarely back down and this is where the trouble starts. Power struggles over not only major issues, but also minor ones can be a problem.
Scorpio can draw Aries into their web of arguments, and when fiery Aries is pushed into a corner, they will fight back with acid and candid tongue. This may not mean much to Aries because in the next short while they will be on to something else and forget the incident, but sultry water sign Scorpio can brood while thinking through ways to get back at Aries. Their strength of character is what attracts them to each other, but can be the very character trait which results in their downfall, with neither willing to compromise.
Scorpio and Taurus Relationship
Both signs can be very tight-lipped, keeping silent when communication is essential, and both can be very suspicious. Scorpio may feel intensely frustrated by the Bull’s out of hand rejection of subjects that Scorpio finds fascinating and important. Taurus can feel just as frustrated by Scorpio’s insistence on dwelling on things that Taurus can’t relate to, as well as their judgment of the Bull’s preference for simple basics. Both may find the other’s stubborn fixity infuriating, even if they recognize this quality in themselves.
The Scorpio sting can seriously wound tender hearted Taurus, which Taurus may never forget or completely forgive. Though slow to anger, a bull on a rampage can be almost as devastating, and as a water sign, Scorpio registers all emotions intensely. Both parties may simply cut the other one off if they feel the other has crossed the line. If these two are not aligned, they’re enemies. There is no middle ground here. Passion will not be lacking, but they are both powerful beings and until they can learn the art of compromise and compassion, this union will be nothing short of challenging. Not for the weak at heart.
Scorpio and Gemini Relationship
Scorpio is definitely the boss here, and although Gemini is an easy going character, there is a limit to how much the twins will allow themselves to be dominated. Also, Scorpio doesn’t have respect for anyone who backs down so easily; they prefer to be challenged in their partnerships. Scorpio is a water sign and experiences life primarily on an emotional level, whereas Gemini, an air sign, experiences life more through the realm of thought and ideas.
Gemini may feel like a caged bird who longs to fly free in the face of an over-bearing intensity that Scorpio can bring to the relationship. Everything doesn’t have to be so heavy! Gemini’s verbosity and inconsistency can drive Scorpio up a wall, and the split screen Gemini persona can push them past their initial fascination into angry dismissal. The duality natural to Gemini serves their purpose of exploring and connecting with all of life, but Scorpio seeks to penetrate deeply, partial knowledge – or love - doesn’t appeal. Scorpio contemplates entering into a relationship seriously, and flighty light-weights are a definite deal breaker.
Scorpio and Cancer Relationship
Both have long memories – they never forget a thing. Their challenge is to learn to leave past hurts behind, forgive and forget, and move on. There is too much good happening in this relationship to let a squabble here and there interfere. Scorpio can be too controlling for Cancer, and the crab can carelessly snap at Scorpio. Cancer mustn’t smother Scorpio with too much mothering, they need to allow Scorpio some private space without feeling threatened. Scorpio must remember how tender hearted Cancer really is – the Scorpion sting could wound Cancer more than Scorpio could imagine. Both can withdraw into silence if they are hurt, causing a painful stand-off.
Scorpio and Leo Relationship
Leo will feel that there is a part of Scorpio they cannot access, and they will be right. Scorpio keeps a little mysteriousness about themselves or some personal secrets, and there is nothing you can do to coax it out of them. Leo’s pride can be pricked when they meet with the Scorpio silent treatment. With a little sunshine and lion-hearted generosity, however, Leo will melt some of the Scorpio ice. Leo can be arrogant and their need to be the center of attention can prove trying to Scorpio.
Leos can pout or rattle pots and pans if they don’t get their way, but if Scorpio can manage some kind of genuine compliment at such times, Leo’s royal hissy fit will lose its momentum. Neither of these two will be content to play second fiddle and both have a naturally dominant character, so mutual support for each other’s professional aspirations is essential.
Leo needs an audience, and if Scorpio doesn’t honor them sufficiently the lion will seek the spotlight elsewhere. That doesn’t mean they’re unfaithful, they merely need attention. Scorpio’s magnetic appeal will surely draw admirers, and as both signs can be very jealous, they must take care not to inflame their partner and to affirm their devotion and loyalty.
Scorpio and Virgo Relationship
Scorpio has a powerful sense of self and little tolerance for nit-picking, critical remarks or neurotic suggestions, and their ability to wound – either with words or silence – can send Virgo’s self- worth spiraling downward. Virgo wants to advise Scorpio as to the correct manner of doing things, what they think is the right direction, etc., which Scorpio may have no patience for at all.
The Scorpio fixed nature can be very dominating, and though Virgo is naturally mutable and accommodating, they are independently minded and don’t take well to any power plays. Scorpio might think Virgo is a push over, but nothing could be further from the truth. Virgo fights back.
Scorpio can be very suspicious and secretive, which offends Virgo’s integrity and purity of spirit; mutual trust and openness is essential with this pair. Scorpios don’t need to be told what to do, nor do they need to be given approval. Virgo is frustrated by Scorpios reluctance be cooperative.
Scorpio and Libra Relationship
Scorpio’s opinions are direct and Libra sees all sides of every issue. Libra can talk till they’re exhausted trying to get Scorpio to put themselves in other people’s shoes and see a different side, but Scorpio is a fixed sign and once their mind is made up it’s difficult to change. Scorpio sees this constant cajoling as an irritating waste of time. Libra seeks acceptance, beauty, harmony - they are the peace makers. Scorpio has no problem with conflict, being more interested in living each moment to its fullest than being ‘nice’.
Libra communicates verbally more than Scorpio, who conveys their feelings more subtly, or withholds all expression in silence. Reading a Scorpio can be almost impossible - they are masters of disguise. This can cause Libra to become insecure, prompting them to talk even more as they try to get Scorpio to open up and tell them what’s on their mind. There’s a slippery slope!
Libra may need more outward signs of affection while missing the deeper signals that Scorpio sends, which hurts Libra and alienates Scorpio. Scorpio feels deeply and may also be hurt or disappointed by Libra’s inability to ‘get’ what’s going on with them. Communication between these two can be frustrating. Libra requires a great many social interactions, and while Scorpio loves a good time, they may weary quickly of Libra’s constant buzz of activity and withdraw.
Scorpio and Scorpio Relationship
An all or nothing relationship. When it’s full on, you can expect power struggles to take place – they both have the will to win and will not back off. Heaven help them if one decides to disregard the other, it will be interesting to watch with all that potent energy ready to be aimed and fired. Scorpios are certainly better friends than foes. The potential for some hairy emotional pyrotechnics exists between these two. Scorpio can be either exquisitely sensitive and supportive or cruel and withholding.
The range of human potential exists within this sign. Each will have secrets, and each will seek to dominate, so how they negotiate the level of power-sharing and transparency will surely be a topic they’ll need to deal with. This sign rules sex, death and regeneration, and all three are sure to play important roles in the relationship.
They can use their collective force to create or destroy, and a healthy reverence for each other’s sensitivity and power is essential. The atmosphere between them can get so heavy as to be overwhelming, and bringing in outside influences – in the form of friends and activities – can help keep them focused in a positive direction.
Scorpio and Sagittarius Relationship
Danger – Sagittarius idealizes ‘Honesty and Principle’ and Scorpio has the need to guard their secrets. Trust and loyalty are big issues. No matter how much they’re confronted, it may never change. Scorpio sees shades of grey where Sag tends to see black and white. Scorpio’s inner power is to not reveal everything, and Sag won’t rest easily if they think something is hidden. Their fundamental rhythms and frequencies may be incompatible. Sag tends to burn hot and fast – they’re creatures of movement and don’t take to being tied down.
Scorpio experiences life more internally, and the constant buzz of activity that Sag engages in may grate on them. Scorpio is a deep feeling creature, and Sag can unintentionally run roughshod over their feelings with careless remarks or lack of emotional awareness.
Red Flag: Scorpio can be very jealous, and Sagittarius can be very flirtatious. A Sag in serious quest of a Scorpio love should be aware that Scorpio plays for high stakes. Sagittarius may feel frustrated by Scorpio’s insistence on analyzing everything and making such a big deal - it’s all such a drag on the centaur’s speed. Scorpio may dismiss Sagittarius as too flighty and not take them seriously, even if they admire their sheer zest for life.
Scorpio and Capricorn Relationship
Dreams, goals and wishes will be a hot topic when these two signs get together. However, their path to greatness will take different journeys. Scorpio may find Capricorn too controlling, too rational or limited while Capricorn may find Scorpio to be indulgent or gullible. Scorpio may feel hurt or disappointed when they desire to share some of their passionate interests with Capricorn that the sea-goat simply isn’t interested in. Capricorn can find Scorpio’s emotional intensity overwhelming or unnecessary, while Scorpio can run into Capricorn’s wall of rationality and wonder if there’s any soul behind it!
Both these two can get into some pretty dark moods, and their ‘shadow sides’ can be pretty harsh. Scorpio will sting in retaliation, either with words or silence, and Capricorn can go stone cold. These two must remember to express their affection, respect and appreciation often. Capricorn can be very controlling and bossy, and Scorpio can be very stubborn.
Scorpio doesn’t take well to orders or being treated as an underling. Scorpio acts from instinct while Capricorn acts from logic, causing additional power struggles. Because they are both so controlling and serious, it’s possible for this couple to fall into a rut, letting routine take over the magic of the relationship. Mix it up from time to time.
Scorpio and Aquarius Relationship
Both Scorpio and Aquarius can be aloof and remote, though for very different reasons. Scorpio camouflages their strong emotional response with apparent indifference, while Aquarius ‘checks out’ and goes cold as an escape mechanism. The demands of Scorpio’s feeling nature may trigger just such a withdrawal in Aquarius, which infuriates Scorpio. Aquarius simply doesn’t engage emotionally with anywhere near the passion that Scorpio does, and Scorpio cannot detach enough to wander the realm theoretical abstractions like Aquarius.
These two powerful signs have definite beliefs, which are often very different to each other, and achieving a middle ground is rarely possible. They may both strike each other as eccentric or strange - and to each other, they are! Both are strong characters and fixed in their own ideas, which means they each have a stubborn streak. Because the potential for a unique and powerful connection is strong, these two need to learn to compromise. Mutual respect is guaranteed, and with enough desire and effort they can make a relationship work.
Scorpio and Pisces Relationship
Let’s get one thing straight, there is a natural hierarchy in this relationship and Scorpio is the boss. That leaves Pisces to be the more fragile of the two. Both are sensitive signs, but Scorpio is tougher than Pisces and can hide his/her emotions, which the fish finds difficult. Scorpio is the master of disguise, and they’ll act aloof when they’re burning inside. The Fish longs for Scorpio to express their true feelings more; it would be good for both of them.
Scorpio needs control and as a fixed sign they dominate Pisces who is more vulnerable and easily swayed. Pisces values the soul resonance they feel with Scorpio so much that they may suffer for the sake of trying to make this relationship work more than they would for another. The Scorpion can, indeed, sting, and if they value the precious gem they have in Pisces, they’ll work hard to keep that tendency in check. Both these two are ruled by powerful emotions – dramatic clashes can leave lasting scars.