Virgo in Relationships
Partners of different zodiac signs bring out slightly different facets of the Virgo personality. Some elements however are fairly common to all Virgo relationships. Virgos value perfection in themselves and at times can be very self critical, so having a partner love them unconditionally brings about a healthy and well rounded Virgo. Treat your Virgo gently and tread softly if/when problems arise and your loving bond will strengthen instead of weakening as a result.
Virgos are often slow to start a relationships. Conservative by nature and cautious with themselves and their hearts, they benefit from a more flirtatious and aggressive partner to start things off. With that said, they appreciate a direct and tactful lover, prizing honesty and openness over outwardly outlandish flirting styles.
Virgos are known for being intellectual in the sexiest of terms. It is said that the mind is the sexiest organ in the body and this is most evident when dealing with the seriously brainy Virgo. All this sharp intelligence make them keen conversationalists and they enjoy a partner that can hold their own on subjects of interest.
This keen intelligence also makes them wonderful partners, as their opinions are well crafted and showing appreciation for your Virgo’s views will score you points. Also because of this logical and analytical intelligence they usually value the qualities which they themselves do not possess. When their partner has such qualities it makes said partner irresistible to a Virgo. For example, if your Virgo is a very hardworking and shy type, a more outgoing confident partner that is flirtatious while still being smart enough to banter would likely spike their interest and keep things interesting versus two such shy and hardworking types.
Just because Virgos may seem conservative, this doesn’t mean they are so in intimate relationships. They know their mind and their emotions run deep beneath the surface. Virgo’s sexiness isn’t an "in your face" style, but more about action versus words. Virgos are "earthier" than most other signs and as such value stability and loyalty from their lover. As pertains to romantic intimacy this means they are more of a "quality vs. quantity" lover and prefer committed relationships over one night stands. They may not verbalize their adoration as much as other signs, but they will still show the strength of their love via many daily actions and gestures.
Virgos especially appreciate a mature partner that they can trust to not go off the deep end over every minor crisis. This enables them to focus on the important things and the teamwork element of the partnership will flow strongly. They prefer substance over drama. Discretion is important to Virgos. They tend towards modesty and so they will need to be lavished with praise and love and under such treatment, their bond and love blossoms for their partner.
Virgo and Aries Relationship
The problem for these two signs is to get them to agree on anything! They both have strong opinions and although Virgo is a mutable sign, when it concerns matters of an intellectual nature, if they know they are right they will not back down and whether they are right or wrong neither will an Aries. Friction is caused by them not appreciating each other’s unique skills. Aries is a doer and is proactive and Virgo is a deep thinker, who gathers a lot of knowledge, they are experts in their field of study.
In a nutshell, Aries are general about everything and Virgo is exact about everything. They can come to the same conclusions but have different ways of arriving there. In terms of view of self Aries and Virgo again diverge in opinion with Aries supremely confident and boastful while Virgo is modest - almost humble. There may also be difficulty finding common interests and keeping the active Aries entertained as Virgo is likely to focus on one hobby or activity while Aries likes to dabble in many.
Virgo and Taurus Relationship
They both want their own way, and problems can exist in how these two can view life. Taurus is a Fixed sign, and once they set their mind on something they have difficulty being flexible and changing how they feel. Virgo is Mutable, and although they are more flexible, when they feel they know best (which is often) they can be relentless in presenting their argument to Taurus, which can inevitable wear them down, but Taurus will not forget that they give Virgo a win and will file the information away to even up the score at a later date.
Taurus is far less concerned about the trivial matters of life, and as a perfectionist Virgo will go the extra mile to make sure something is exact, and they will go to this amount of trouble and energy sometimes just to make a point, all of which can be lost on the bull. They both have strong opinions, which can cause trouble in paradise, but in the end they appreciate each other for their opinions and wouldn’t have it any other way – what they do not want is a wimpy yes man or woman in their life, life is to have substance, and a great deal of it, and this includes the people they spend their life with.
Virgo and Gemini Relationship
Virgo’s perfection can clash with Gemini easiness. All Gemini wants is an easy life, and with Virgo fussing around wanting everything to be picture perfect it can be all too much for Gemini. When Virgo cares about someone, they can become critical, which kills the Gemini mischievousness. Virgo may see Gemini as running around in circles, their lack of focus appearing immature in a way that turns Virgo off.
Gemini may feel utterly stifled by Virgo’s predictability and reasonable need for order, while Virgo hates the way Gemini resists being serious or accountable. Even though both signs are mutable in nature, and can ‘go with the flow, an inherent friction exists in their elemental compatibility. Gemini is an air sign; they are most at home in the realm of ideas and abstractions. Virgo is of the Earth, and experiences life through the material world.
Gemini gets distracted easily while Virgo never loses sight of their purpose or goal, and though that can work out in a complementary fashion, each can be a real kill-joy to the other’s approach to life. In short, these two can be intensely frustrated by the other and feel alienated in spite of their similarities and attraction. For all the words these two will likely share, they may experience a ‘failure to communicate’ on the deepest level that leaves them disappointed, confused and annoyed.
Virgo and Cancer Relationship
Virgo may wound their acutely sensitive Cancer partner with a critical remark that the Crab does not let go of long after Virgo has forgotten it. A Cancer in protection mode may reject Virgo’s gestures of caring, making Virgo feel rejected and unappreciated. Cancer can descend into a dark emotional abyss that has the potential to overwhelm Virgo’s nerves and sensitivity to an extent that drags both of them down even further. The Virgo fix-it nature can really grate on Cancers sensitivity.
Admittedly, when Virgo is critical they are only trying to help Cancer be a better person, but too much nitpicking and not enough encouragement can quickly wear out Virgo’s welcome. If the Crab dishes out some of the criticism that Virgo serves up, the Virgin’s delicate self -esteem can really take a nose dive. Cancers can be more emotionally needy than they let on, with a potential for possessiveness that interferes with Virgo’s need for freedom.
Virgo and Leo Relationship
Virgo needs respect, which Leo may not express enough for Virgo to register. Leo may be too self-involved for Virgo to take seriously, which, in turn, can infuriate the natural Leo pride. Also, they don’t want to concede that someone is better than them; after all, Leos are superior beings. Leo’s fire can be utterly put out by Virgo’s criticism; Virgos just love to give advice, as they do have an abundance of knowledge and feel that they help by sharing.
Virgos are gentle people who, while enjoying good times, are not as focused on social activities as their Leo partner. Virgo may prefer quiet evenings at home, seeking fulfillment in more subtle ways, while Leo might feel hemmed in or frustrated by what seems repressive or boring. If Leo does not express their appreciation for Virgo’s fine qualities and contributions, even with the Virgin’s patience and humility, they are vulnerable and human and their capacity to lodge concise, piercing criticism may ignite one hell of a firestorm. Earth and Fire can make for a mighty volcano.
Virgo and Virgo Relationship
Learn to love each other unconditionally. Looking for the excellence in each other and striving to obtain it not only in yourself but your love-mate can waste time, rather than just enjoying each other the way you are. Worrying is an inefficient pastime of Virgos, and with two of you, it can turn into stress city. Depending on other elements in your charts, there is a potential for detachment that can stand in the way of deep intimacy.
Watch out for a tendency to intellectualize or over analyze. No one is perfect, and with these two it is imperative to remember that we are all works in progress, here to learn and enjoy the journey. These two must make it a point to express their genuine appreciation of the fine qualities the other brings to the table and affirm all that is positive in the relationship.
Strive to maintain a sense of humor and spiritual awareness to help balance the tendency to get caught up in mundane details or concerns that ultimately are of little importance in the big picture. Remember how sensitive you both are to criticism and make a concerted effort to lighten up, get out, and have fun together.
Virgo and Libra Relationship
Virgo’s quest for perfection can be too brutal on the delicate Libra, who believes they are prefect just the way they are and can’t understand why Virgo doesn’t realize this. Libra does try hard to please Virgo, however, which can be a never-ending and thankless task, because in reality, Virgo’s expectations are too often too high to be met.
Libra can strike Virgo as getting lost in the clouds, avoiding harsh realities and seeking diversion in trivialities, while Virgo gets stuck taking care of necessary business that Libra avoids, leading to Virgo’s resentment and withering criticism. Virgo’s tireless quest for personal transformation and refinement can stress them out to the max, which in turn throws Libra entirely off. Virgo’s tendencies toward worry and pessimism can squelch Libra’s natural impulse to spread love and create harmony.
Libra’s endpoint is peace, while Virgo’s is perfection - two goals that seem entirely incompatible. They’re not, really, but the process of obtaining them may create considerable friction between them that proves difficult to overcome. Of the elements Earth and Air, these two have difficulty blending their essential natures. Although they share many similar qualities and can appreciate the other for their special gifts, without complementary aspects elsewhere in their charts, they can feel disconnected on the deepest level.
Virgo and Scorpio Relationship
Scorpio has a powerful sense of self and little tolerance for nit-picking, critical remarks or neurotic suggestions, and their ability to wound – either with words or silence – can send Virgo’s self- worth spiraling downward. Virgo wants to advise Scorpio as to the correct manner of doing things, what they think is the right direction, etc., which Scorpio may have no patience for at all.
The Scorpio fixed nature can be very dominating, and though Virgo is naturally mutable and accommodating, they are independently minded and don’t take well to any power plays. Scorpio might think Virgo is a push over, but nothing could be further from the truth. Virgo fights back. Scorpio can be very suspicious and secretive, which offends Virgo’s integrity and purity of spirit; mutual trust and openness is essential with this pair. Scorpios don’t need to be told what to do, nor do they need to be given approval. Virgo is frustrated by Scorpios reluctance be cooperative.
Virgo and Sagittarius Relationship
Sagittarians have a strong mind and like to do what they want, when they want and how they want, but Virgo has other ideas. In Virgo’s mind, there is a lot about Sag that can be improved or ‘fixed’. Virgo respects intelligence above all else, and while the Sagittarian mind is sharp, their tendency to speak without thinking or act without planning appropriately is a huge turn off for Virgo, who can lose respect for Sag, causing serious problems.
Conversely, Sag may find Virgo’s concerns petty or nit-picking and disregard Virgo’s advice as unnecessary and cumbersome, feeling the Virgo to be a drag on their speed. Virgo may feel Sag lacks direction or maturity, and get frustrated by their need for constant activity, causing them to lose interest.
Sagittarians are famous for their truthfulness, which Virgo appreciates, but when Sag blurts out the first thing that pops into their head, with the excuse, “Well, it’s true!” Virgo can be both hurt and disgusted by Sag’s lack of sensitivity and awareness. Sag may see such a response as a neurotic over reaction, or not even realize they have hurt or offended Virgo at all, until it’s too late.
Virgo and Capricorn Relationship
As these two both have a strong work ethic and strong sense of responsibility, being disciplined to block out time for togetherness with no interruptions can be difficult. Elevating each other to number one, above their work is also a constant challenge, because there also seems to be someone else who needs or wants their attention. Both can succumb to depression, burn out or pessimism, letting the burdens of the world overwhelm them. They are wise to remember this tendency and do all they can to help their partner lighten up and see the glass half full – these two can be too serious for their own good, at times.
When Virgo is happy and healthy they create order in their environment; they are famous ‘neat freaks.’ When they’re depressed, however, they can neglect necessary chores, leading to chaos – which of course drags them down further. Capricorn may have difficulty understanding how Virgo could let things get out of control, showing little compassion for Virgo’s internal struggle. Capricorn can be extremely controlling, and with Virgo’s need to please and be of true service, these two must be careful to maintain a balance of power in the relationship.
Virgo and Aquarius Relationship
When an Aquarian’s abrupt and aloof manner suddenly appears for no reason at all, it confuses Virgo. Even Aquarian doesn’t know what causes his or her change of mood, so when questioned by Virgo, they feel boxed in rather than free to be themselves. On a daily basis, this interruption in their lives can cause continual unset and unrest. Aquarius, an Air sign, functions primarily in the realm of ideas, and although Earth sign Virgo is acutely intellectual and analytical, they can find Aquarius too lost in the clouds, refusing to come down to Earth, which leaves Virgo feeling alienated, lonely and frustrated.
Without supportive aspects in their charts, these two may find it difficult to relate and feel comfortable together, regardless of how attracted to each other they may be. Aquarius may find Virgo to be too conservative and small minded to go the distance, while Virgo may see Aquarius as an impractical space case. If they do form an intimate union, they must find a way to transcend intellectual, conceptual ways of relating so as to really click.
Virgo and Pisces Relationship
These two really are opposites and they do say opposite attract, but can they sustain a full time lasting relationship? Virgo deals in absolutes; it’s black white, facts and figures for them. Their minds operate with speed and precision, while Pisces, ruled by the elusive Neptune, can be evasive. The Fish have an answer for everything but are masters at not giving you a definite agreement. Virgo needs to be needed, and Pisces has plenty of needs to share!
Self protective Virgo may not open up to tender Pisces, however, causing distance to grow between them. Virgo is famously critical and must be very careful with the sensitive Pisces who suffers the stings of criticism more than most. If a Pisces feels they have come up lacking, in the eyes of their Virgo partner, their light dims and real trouble can set in. The Virgin’s own insecurities can trigger subtle envy of the creative and intuitive gifts that come naturally to Pisces. These two must work to overcome barriers that arise due to unexpressed vulnerability.