Cancer Man and Cancer Woman
To understand the fundamental workings of a successful relationship between a Cancer man and a Cancer woman, you will need to snoop around with a detective eye. Chances are, even then you may not be successful in deciphering what makes their marriage / relationship tick.
The coming together of two similar individuals as in the case of a Cancer man and a Cancer woman is not spectacular rather predictable. Why? It seems only natural that two people with similar likings and hobbies come together and decide to spend their lives together. However, with a Cancer couple, the relationship is rather sketchy and is made up of far too many conditions and pretences.
Beneath all the lovely layers of compassion and care is a cold calculative brain that looks at each aspect of life in a “win-lose” situation. This is not restricted to business decisions with Cancer people. This aspect of their lives replicated in the home, bedroom and their private lives. No Cancer individual will take a decision that doesn’t benefit him/her in the short or long term. These individuals need to see some sort of advantage with their alliances or else they are known to take the first exit out!
So, when they see that their alliance benefits them mutually, they will go ahead and seal it. Whether it is in business or in marriage, a Cancer couple will work well together. They will form a lovely bond between themselves that will allow them to cherish their lives together. They will want to extend this bond and include new members in their circle of love which may explain an early baby in the marriage.
Not the ones to let trivial issues blow up into huge fights, these Cancer individuals will work their way through most of the obstacles another couple might find disturbing. Since they are calculative of every decision that they take, the couple will know the right step to take if they see their future in danger. Through their practical approach in life, they will successfully maneuver all that comes in their way of happiness.
Beyond the nitty gritties of the relationship, whether a Cancer man and Cancer woman will be able to sustain their relationship is a question that holds a simple, calculative and logical answer: Yes.
Cancer Man and Cancer Woman Compatibility
Sometimes when two signs get together, it’s too much of a good thing. In the case of Cancer and Cancer, however, there are some real advantages. This it because the way a man uses Cancer energy is very different from the way a woman does. In both cases nurturing is involved but the object is different. The Cancer woman is among the most home-loving of creatures but, ironically, she tends to run her home like a business. She is often found looking at her home like a profit-center. She is the gal most likely to clip coupons and store them in a jar that she took with her when she left her mother’s home. You can see that she combines tender qualities in her approach to marriage. It’s the same with the Cancer man. He will nurture as much as she does, but what he will nurture is his wife, their mutual investments, their retirement fund, and both sets of parents. When two Cancers marry, there is a wide circle of caring created. Of course children are included as well.
How to Attract a Cancer Woman as a Cancer Man
Show your protectiveness right away. Open the doors, walk on the outside of the sidewalk (ready to throw your cape on the mud puddles if necessary), carry the groceries into the house from the car, make sure the door is locked when you go to bed for the evening, and as soon as you can, make an allusion to your “plans for the future” and by that I mean exclusively the financial situation. This woman, who looks so much like a little powder puff, is interested in marriage for one reason and one reason only — securing a financial future for herself and her children. That is her very definition of love.
How to Attract a Cancer Man as a Cancer Woman
Chances are your paths are crossing through one of the vast family connections that exist between the two of you if not from a direct introduction by a family member. You can build on that opportunity. Having the support of relatives is so beneficial in bringing people together. It is best if — from the beginning — you treat his family like they were your own family. You will tend to anyway, but in this relationship, it’s a real plus. By all means refer to your great cooking, your homemaking skills, and elude heavily to how well you take care of your pets, children, friends, boss, employees, etc. You can be very comfortable showing your feelings around this man. It can draw him to you if he sees tears in your eyes over some sad story, or something that bruises your delicate heart. Try not to ask him how much money he makes on the first date.
Degree of Romance
This is more like a business meeting than a romance. Each one is trying to ascertain the possibility of future security.
Degree of Passion
None. Unless you start talking about splitting the pot. Then the greedy little Cancer monster – gimme, gimme, gimme, mine, mine, mine appears with a passionate vengeance.
Degree of Friendship
The connection between these two is a little tight to call friendship. These water signs will create a bond which precludes the detachment and disinterest so necessary to maintain an arm’s length relationship. They will have transferred something between the two of them which has become non-negotiable. You might say that friendship ends where need begins.
Degree of Marriage
There is a strong enough bond to create a classic co-dependent relationship. The transferences of needs is so great that they are likely to feel they cannot live without one another. There will be many levels of exchanges — money, sex, comfort, security, belonging, “the future” — all of these things will have been bartered for ad nauseum as each tries to lock the other one into an incontrovertible arrangement that benefits him or herself individually. You haven’t been squeezed until you’ve been squeezed by a Cancer.
Progression of Relationship
The relationship will follow a secret agenda wherein each Cancer tries to secure a hold on the other before giving ground. There is an unbelievably entangled negotiation going on behind the seemly harmless dating scene. It runs something like this — If I tell you I love you will you marry me … if you marry me will you give me security … if you give me security will you promise never to take it away …. And then there is the endless testing for unconditionality between these two insecure, sometimes neurotic, individuals. They become like two little children trying to find out how “bad” they can be and still be loveable and adorable. Therefore the way they date may be a mystery to all outsiders but it follows the revealed game plan.