Dating an Aries Man
The Aries man has a very specific, grand and demanding vision for his ultimate relationship. In life, he orders everything customized to his tastes, and those tastes are very particular. He may not subconsciously realize that human beings, imbued with things like personalities and free will, can’t conform to his fantasies on demand. He’d rather just find that “needle in the haystack” relationship, the impossible dream come true. When he finds that, he gives it every ounce of his being. He turns off the selfish switch and pours on the giving. So why would he do that for just anyone?
The Aries man is great at either having lots of sex with lots of different people, or being completed devoted to one woman. Nothing in between. He’s too impatient to master the finer points of courtship. It doesn’t even occur to him. The Aries man is endearingly authentic to a fault. Even if he’s dating multiple women when you meet, he’ll just tell you outright. Although it may seem crude, his open-book policy can actually create a space of greater trust.
How to Dating a Aries Man
Besides, it’s not like Aries thinks relationships are the be-all end-all of life. He gets restless, itchy for the next adventure. His eyes rove, his imagination wanders. Isn’t there another damsel to save somewhere? Another sexual position he hasn’t tried? He knows his desires may be more than one woman can supply—and he’s not above shopping at a few different stores to complete his sexual grocery list. To this independent sign, bachelorhood is a cherished prize. It’s his ticket to freedom, adventure, unlimited expression—his access to feeling truly alive. He’ll never trade it in unless he truly believes a relationship will provide all those treasures and more.
What he needs is sort of contradictory: a relationship that gives him ultimate security and full freedom to roam. The Aries man is deeply driven by a fear of abandonment, so that should never be an issue between you. Once that’s secured, he feels safe to spread his arms wide and pull life to him. He wants to live life like it’s a huge playground—more like a carnival fairground—where he can wander, explore, win you stuffed animals, and enjoy a freak show or two. On Coney Island, reality is suspended. There’s a different set of rules, or perhaps none at all, which is perfect because that means he gets to make them. We can’t help but mention Aries Hugh Hefner again, who lives at the Playboy Mansion surrounded by half-naked centerfold models all day. Who cares if nobody else lives that way? That only makes it more appealing for Aries.
If you want to be with Aries for the long haul, you’ll have to embrace his chosen lifestyle. Does that mean he wants everything on his terms? Well, everything that matters to him. We know tons of Aries men who are in long-term relationships, even married, but live in separate homes from their partners. Some even have open relationships, or some need that requires an “understanding” between you. One bi-curious Aries man agreed to marry his longtime girlfriend, but she had to allow him to have one “boys’ night” where he cuddled or made out with a man. How she put up with it, we don’t know—in this case, he threw a fit and threatened to walk unless he got his way. She decided to put up or shut up. If what’s good for the Aries goose ain’t good for the gander, he’d sooner fly away than change his migratory habits.
How to know if an Aries man loves you?
One of the most straightforward signs, if an Aries man is interested in you then you’ll probably know about it! They rarely have a problem taking action or making their intentions clear. Ironically, one of the most common complaints about them is that they can be too direct and honest about such things. This isn’t a man who sits around planning or leaving subtle clues! If you have to ask with an Aries then... probably he doesn’t (or doesn’t yet)!
Once You Are Dating
Love is a battlefield, and this sentiment is especially true with Aries. Aries loves witty repartee that has a tinge of underlying sexual tension, so don’t be afraid to unload a few double entrendres with this sign. Aries also loves a good fight, so be sure to stand up for yourself and intelligently defend your opinions. Don’t be afraid to go toe-to-toe with Aries since he’ll find the fight intoxicating.
The last thing Aries wants is a stick in the mud who wants to hold hands and cuddle nonstop. Don’t be mistaken, Aries loves physical affection and isn’t shy about giving or receiving it, but he also wants a mate that is willing to stand alone from time to time. In light of this, you certainly have the green light to enjoy your own unique hobbies. Additionally, if your Aries loves sports like rock climbing or martial arts, feel free to participate. He’ll love you all the more for it.
The last key area you’ll want to address when it comes to keeping your Aries man is his volatility. Aries has quite a temper that tends to be short lived, but explosive. Even so, one thing you can count on is Aries forgetting what he was angry about the second the situation has passed; this is not a sign that holds onto resentment. Perhaps it’s is because of this trait that Aries doesn’t like others who do hold a grudge. The best advice then is for you to forgive and truly forget.
Relationships As a Couple
If you want to have a fulfilling relationship with your Aries boyfriend, make sure that it has enough variety to keep him hooked. Aries men love to do new things and try out new tasks. So ask your guy if he is game for an overnight drive to watch the sun rising on the Rockies. Surprise him with a new skill that you have picked up like the salsa and see if he is willing to try it out with you. As a partner, you need to reveal your intelligence and ambition besides knowing how to maintain his interest in the long run.
An energetic and emotional relationship is what you are looking at if you are seriously dating an Aries guy. While he may hook you with his open charm and keep you on your toes with his brisk lifestyle, he may, at times, get on your nerves with his impatience and hot-headedness. However, the one thing you can be sure of is that dating such a guy will never lead to a moment of dullness and even a committed relationship can be full of that variety and spontaneity which is sadly lacking in many long-term pairings.