Venus in Virgo Woman
When woman Venus is in Virgo, you express love by doing things for, and fussing over, your loved one. You notice little things about your partner, make mental notes of their likes and dislikes (this may sound contrived, but it’s not—it’s simply the way you’re wired!), and genuinely try to help your lover in practical ways. You listen to what your lover has to say, and you have something sensible and intelligent to say in response! In fact, you are great at communicating about your relationship.
One dilemma that can easily happen with this position: Your partner doesn’t always know how to please you. You might have a simple answer, but he/she may still wonder. You see all of the details of your relationship. You worry about its viability, and tend to the practical details of partnership. These are important contributions to the relationship, but because they lack glamor, your partner may not always appreciate you. You are not the most romantic partner, and your tastes are rather simple (although, as mentioned before, it is hard for others to see that simplicity because you may have a habit of fussing). Can’t see the forest for the trees? Your partner might accuse you of this, and it may be true. You will benefit from sitting back and infusing yourself with some faith in the big picture, once in a while. But, you are needed! And there are partners who will see that. You work hard at making yourself indispensable in your partner’s life.
Generally, you don’t throw yourself into love affairs too readily. This does not mean you are chaste, like the Virgo of yore. Some Venus in Virgo natives can even be promiscuous. But when it comes to gooey romance, where lovers bare all, you are rather selective and self-contained. You are a very sensual being who wants to feel safe before giving yourself to another. Venus in Virgo has a reputation for being critical. This does happen, but it generally is a symptom of insecurity. You can’t help but see the failings and the holes in any partnership, and you can sometimes be quite reticent about entering a partnership. Generally, though, you will see what’s wrong with a person at the outset of a relationship when it doesn’t feel safe to you as yet. It’s a defense mechanism more than anything! Your own insecurities can propel you to see faults and problems in your partner. Once you feel safe, however, you are not quite the fussbudget Venus in Virgo is made out to be. You value effort put into a relationship (in fact, for many with this position, effort from their partner is at the top of their list).
Virgo Venus Woman
Women with Venus in Virgo can be very highly strung. In general they are a piece of work. They tend to have very earthy feminine sensual looks. They tend to look “perfect”. They often give off an element of purity and fertility. They are often seen as the “ideal woman”. They are meticulous about their appearance. They are always very groomed and clean. They usually look great in very restrictive and form fitting clothing like business attire, leather, and dresses with corsets.
Clothing that is both modest but enticing. Overtly sexy, colorful, and attention grabbing clothes don’t usually work well with them, it cheapens them. They usually look best in classic attire, that is modest, practical but still shows off their amazing bodies. Solid neutral colors usually work best for them. They won’t be obsessive about fashion or what is trendy but they will always have their own individual and sexy style.
Sex is always an interesting and somewhat dysfunctional situation with Venus in Virgo. Women with Venus in Virgo can be horrible, horrible teases. They may be the types to have amazingly beautiful bodies, beautiful faces, they will flirt and give the impression that they are very sexually knowledgeable and experienced, but then they will withhold sex. They may never actually have sex or want to. They may have a million rules. They are all about the sexual control and suspense.
They can also be very boring, mechanical, and routine in bed. Doing the same things every time or even nothing at all. Or they can be very obsessive in their sensuality, keeping lists about their lovers and what they like and being sure to do exactly what they know will arouse them.