Neptune in 7th House
Those with Neptune in the 7th house find this planet most commonly expressed in the area of relationships, and its position describes the qualities, traits, and characteristics we tend to meet in others. The seventh house is traditionally known as the "house of marriage". Similarly it describes our significant others, and indicates the kind of partner to whom we are attracted. This sphere of life should never be taken lightly, as relationships are some of the most important and powerful experiences in our lives.
When planets are placed in the 7th house they fall into our projections, those qualities within ourselves that are reflected back to us. This means that we see both positive and negative traits in others before realizing they are our own. It is through others that we live out the unconscious parts of ourselves, and when the blue planet occupies this position in the horoscope it is usually the other person that becomes the carrier for the symbol of Neptune. Essentially they are part of our own make-up, and Jung termed these projections "imaginary relationships".
Those with Neptune in the house of significant others will often cherish, idealize and fantasize about the loved one. It is important for those with Neptune in the 7th house to choose carefully in relationships, and to be honest with oneself. The planet is most concerned with the fantasy element of life, and sometimes Neptune dreams about having a relationship with someone they could never have in reality. Relationships have the tendency of creating a lot pain, and as children we dream up the perfect relationship, but it is not until we are adults that we understand the reality.
More often, those with Neptune in the 7th house are attracted to partners that are artistic, musical and creative, and perhaps there is a shared interest in the arts, movies or photography. For some, the type of associations they form with others could be of a religious, spiritual, or psychic kind. This is frequently the placement of those that believe in Prince Charming, or to put it another way, they believe strongly in the idea that they have a soul mate, a twin flame.
The meeting of other half usually has a fairy-tale element wrapped around it. Often the Neptune in 7th person is waiting to be rescued, but deep down they long for a deep spiritual connection, and believe in unconditional love. However, this belief in loving someone unconditionally, if taken too far, lands the person in troubled waters in relationships. It can get to the point were they are willing to accept anything from a partner, maintaining the illusion of the partner no matter how many flaws are presented.
With Neptune in this position there is the possibility of the victim/savior archetype coming into play. This happens when the individual falls in love with the illusion that they will save the person. It is commonly referred to as the falling in love with "wounded birds" syndrome. The person unconsciously falls for someone giving out a clue that they need help and some form of rescuing.
The potential partner may come across as being vulnerable, needy, or over-dependent in some way. They are usually in need of saving through - alcoholism, drug addiction, abusive, and those with complex emotional problems/nebulous past, The Neptune in 7th house person believes that the person has never been fully understood or loved, and takes the relationship on like a project, believing they can fix these problems.
In these type of relationships, there’s a tremendous amount of guilt that binds it together, and this can also make it feel suffocating. In many ways being involved in these kinds of relationships makes the individual feel like the stronger person, and avoids facing what is vulnerable helpless and needy within oneself.
If the weaker partner gets better, it can be difficult because then a sea of unmet emotional hurts, feeling of weakness and hidden vulnerability comes crashing back towards them like a tidal wave. This is how projections work in reality and the seventh house, also known as the Descendant forms a direct line back to the Ascendant, suggesting that it is through relationships there is a connection back to ourselves.
The Neptune in 7th house person can sometimes suffer disillusionment, sadness and disappointment through being easily seduced by others, and not always perceiving a partner clearly. Sometimes they are willing to sacrifice everything just to be with one person. It is in relationships were the individual experiences Neptune’s "drowning", and this kind of relating is totally addictive for these people, and the partner becomes like a drug.
The placement of Neptune here could place them in a public scandal, and be roped into relationships through deception. This occurs through extramarital affairs when the husband plays the victim locked up in a unhappy marriage with a woman he proposes he does not love. Conversely, Neptune in the 7th house house may play the role of the deceived partner, and through such betrayal becomes a victim in the marriage.
A person with Neptune in the 7th house is especially sensitive, empathetic and compassionate towards others, and it is not uncommon to find the individual in the role of counselor, healer and social worker. There is often a great talent for psychology and the ability to open others up and infiltrate individual barriers. Indeed, they are born with the rare capacity for deep insights into others, but his house is also one that belongs to the public, and many people express Neptune in this sphere through serving "others" in some way.
Those with Neptune here need to learn how to be more objective in relationships. Still they have the power to experience an extremely close and psychic bond with a partner, and could probably teach us all a few lessons in sacrifice, unconditional loving and compassion. The levels of understanding are unparalleled, and there can be a lot of highs and lows, but a also lot of joy is found through relating in this house.
Neptune in the 7th House
You are inclined to give more to a partnership (including marriage) than you take. There may be a tendency to wear rose colored glasses when it comes to the selection of a partner, in an attempt to find a soulmate. The need for a strong psychic or intuitive link with a partner is so strong that your perceptions in partnership are not accurate.
You need to take a step back, consciously attempting to see your partners and relationships for what they are, rather than what you wish them to be. You might be attracted to relationships in which you feel a partner needs to be saved somehow, or in which a partner saves you. However, you might end up with people who only serve to confuse you, who are noncommittal or unavailable, or who are overly dependent. You tend to idealize a partner, assigning them traits that you want them to have, or even seeing them as worse than they are because of your inflated and dramatic expectations.
You need to develop discipline and discrimination when it comes to setting limits, selecting partners, and keeping communication clear in a relationship. In some cases, people with this position give up their power to partners and become dependent upon them. You are likely a creative negotiator and you can be especially accommodating with others. Positively, you are very talented at bringing out the good in another person, particularly a partner, if that person is appreciative of your efforts and is willing to grow.